Saturday, July 19, 2008

Cult of Personality

My sister sent me a personality test. Here are the on and off-target results:

1. Order of importance to me: Family, love, career, pride, money.
2. Descriptions of people's personalities: me-cute; Josh-unapproachable; my enemies-gross; my life-calm.
3. Heidi-someone I'll never forget; Melanie-a true friend; Josh-someone I really love; Dad-my twin soul; Mom-someone I'll remember for the rest of my life.

This is hilarious. Josh is anything but unapproachable and my life is anything but calm. I think it's funny that my subconscious thinks my personality is "cute." My conscious mind thinks it dorky. I can't think of any enemies at the moment, but evidentially you don't want to meet them; they are "gross!" I also don't think I will remember Heidi and my mom in the same way, but then again Heidi and I did spend more than half of the weekends spending the night at each others' houses in 9th grade, so I'm pretty sure I will never forget her. Josh is definitely my true love, so it got that part about him right.

I think it's fun that my dad came out as my "twin soul." I sure do love him. I think his personality is cute, and noble, and creative, and he is generosity itself.

Let me know if you want a copy of this scientific test and I'll email it to you.

Goodnight.

News Flash: Parents of Twins are More Likely to Have Mental Health Issues

For my 4 friends with twins. All I can add is a big, "No kidding!!!"
For the website, click here.

"Parents of Twins are More Likely to Have Mental Health Issues"

Friday July 11, 2008
Results of a Finnish study of new parents found that mothers and fathers of twins were more likely to have symptoms of depression, anxiety, sleeping difficulties and other mental health problems than parents of singleton babies. The study was presented at the 24th annual meeting of the European Society of Human Reproduction and Embryology in an effort to support arguments in favor of reducing the number of multiple pregnancies as a result of assisted reproductive technology (ART).

The results of the study probably won't surprise most parents of multiples (especially the part about sleeping difficulties!) Having twins or multiples is stressful, especially during the first year. So it's important for parents to be aware of the risks, be alert for symptoms of serious problems, and seek support when necessary.

Postpartum Depression (PPD) After Twins
Seven Steps to a Better Day
Ten Tips for Surviving the First Year with Twins or Multiples

Thursday, July 17, 2008

The Unsafeway

Welcome to the Unsafeway. I have been wanting to do a post on this lovable neighborhood grocery store for a while but now the pressure is on because the bastion of local culture is closing its doors forever on Saturday.

A 5 minute walk from our apartment, the Unsafeway has given us much in our 5 1/2 year stay. Josh christened it the "Unsafeway" because it is unlike any grocery store we've been accustomed to frequenting. We don't like to go there after 8pm because most of the customers are only buying alcohol. There is no bakery, no pharmacy, no photo-developing, just a deli, a lot of narrow aisles, meat marked down for quick sale, and wilted produce.

One thing this store has had, though, is employees. Lifelong career employees who always ask if you need help to your car and who always ask how the boys are doing. When the boys were born and I was home without a car and without friends, a walk to S*afeway was enough to fill my emotional reservoir for a few hours until Josh got home from work. Many days, because the boys cried unless they were being held, I didn't have time to eat anything at home so I would put the crying babies in their Double Snap and Go stroller, walk to the store, and buy a deli sandwich and those 25 cent brownies with the chopped walnuts on top to quiet the beast of an appetite I had while nursing two boys. At the store I would get compliments on the boys and sympathy from perfect strangers who could see the desperation in my face. I found comfort in the rows and rows of food and from customers going about a daily routine without 2 crying infants. I knew life would get better and I just had to stick it out a little longer. It was my lifeline.

Most of the time we've lived here we've only used the store for filling in the produce between visits to the bigger grocery store nearby. But, for about a year after the boys were born, it was really our primary store because it was so close. Yesterday, I took the boys over in their new stroller for some bananas, grapes, Gatorade, and a birthday card. I was surprised to see the shelves bare. They only have some produce and grocery items - no meat, no dairy, no deli, nothing that expires quickly. The smell on the laundry/baby aisle was unchanged and I teared up passing it. I have spent hours on that aisle trying to decide which baby food to buy, which flavor of Pedialyte the boys may actually drink to avoid a trip to the hospital for dehydration, deciding how many cans of formula I could afford this time or how many I could manage to push back home in the stroller. This store has witnessed me become a mother with a very tentatively emerging confidence. I have nourished my progeny, bite by bite, growing cell by growing cell, with food from it's shelves. I cried when I realized it will soon be gone.

In about a year and a half there will be a shiny new S*afeway in its place, complete with its own gas station and maybe even a bakery or fresher produce, but I doubt I will be as attached to it as I have been to this beaten down Unsafeway. In the meantime, Sam is having the time of his life watching the construction trucks.

So, goodbye Unsafeway. Thanks for the memories and the support of this harried mother of twins.

Friday, July 11, 2008

A Day in the Life

Emily, this picture is for you!

This is what is going on with us today:

Monkey is missing. I think Michael threw him out in the diaper pail.

Sam had a diaper rash from drinking fresh peach juice yesterday. I knew it was a risk but he was loving it. We made a pie together while Michael was asleep and I think Heavenly Father has sent me one of my best friends as a son.

I ate a hot dog, a shredded beef taco, and a piece of peaches and cream pie for lunch and I do not have indigestion.

Michael can say "hot dog."

I think there's a red-light-district apartment in the building next to us and it makes me sick and want to move right away.

Josh had a good job interview but doesn't know if it's what he's looking for. He wants to "start his life" and do something he enjoys for once. I don't blame him and want him to be happy too.

I took the boys to the fabric store with me this morning to buy fabric for an apron I'm supposed to make at Enrichment craft day, Saturday. They hated being in the store and cried the whole time.

Our weekend plans include, but are not limited to, watching a lot of movies and doing a lot of ironing. We also plan on taking the boys back to look at the temple Sunday afternoon.

Sam can say "Moroni" but it sounds like "Mommy."

I might take the boys out in my borrowed double jogging stroller and try to run this afternoon unless it's too hot. Sam loves it, Michael hates it and cries the whole time.

Josh is going to help with an Elder's Quorum move on Saturday morning, then I'll go to Enrichment. Tag team breaks from the boys. I almost don't want to go. I think I'd rather do some kind of a family outing but the fabric for my apron is very cute. I even got eyelet and daisy buttons to sew onto the pocket.

Michael has started putting two words together to make little sentences! His first was in nursery on Sunday. I was still in the room after Josh left and Michael pointed to the door and said, "Daddy back!" He wanted Josh to come back. He's been saying it all week long, more frequently toward dinner time.

I have decided I spend too much time online so I'm signing off to do some ironing, and maybe call the police about next door.

Have a good weekend!

Tuesday, July 8, 2008

Seriously


Josh said I only post goofy pictures of him on my blog so here's the one they took after Church Sunday for the new ward directory. No trace of goofiness.

Saturday, July 5, 2008

A Presidential Independence Day


***Long post alert! This is instead of writing in my journal!***

Happy Independence Day! We started the day with the ward pancake breakfast. It sprinkled on us a little bit, but it was a nice temperature and the boys had fun playing on the slides. Our neighbors Jeff and Melanie came and met a lot of people. They seemed to have a good time.

At home we had hot dogs and cantaloupe for lunch, followed by naps for everyone. What a treat for me and Josh! Michael woke up first so Josh took him outside for a walk while I stayed home and waited for Sam to wake up. When Sam woke up I took him outside for a walk too. It is so nice to have some one on one time once in a while. We walked over to the gas station by us that is waiting to be torn down. It's fenced off and the pumps are boarded up. There is an enormous back-hoe tractor parked there and Sam walked me in that direction and kept pointing to it and saying "Wow!" We followed a yellow butterfly for a while and then ran into Josh and Michael and walked home together.

It was starting to rain and the real dilemma began. Josh had an invitation to watch the National Mall fireworks on the White House lawn but the weather forecast said the entire area would be covered with thunderstorms on and off all evening. We didn't want to miss this opportunity (no chance of being invited again next year with the change in presidency) but we were nervous about taking the boys out in what could be terrible thunderstorms! Our friends Jeff and Melanie came to the rescue and babysat for us so we could leave the boys at home, snug and dry in their beds, and brave the elements alone.

We were so glad we went! It would have been impossible with the double stroller and two toddlers who hate sitting down for too long and tend to run away at warp speed when they're in a crowd. Without them, though, it was fantastic!

The highlight was the unexpected presence of President and Laura Bush! I had run down to get our little cups of vanilla Blue Bell ice cream when I heard cheers and applause erupt from the nearby crowd. When I got back to our blanket, Josh said, "Turn around." President and Laura Bush were standing on the balcony of the White House. I could hardly see him without my glasses on, but I could tell it was him. I've never seen a US President in person before and it was so amazing! The crowd sang him "Happy Birthday" - his birthday is July 6th - and then we all turned around and watched the fireworks on his front lawn!

I felt like crying as the fireworks went off and the music played over the speakers. "Stars and Stripes Forever," the 1812 Overture, all of the military themes. I felt like our Nation still has strength and moral character, deep down, even if it's covered up with materialism and selfishness. I felt a loyalty to the country and imagined the Bush family taking in this last July 4th celebration in the White House. What memories they will have.

When it was over and we were walking back to the Metro we saw a bus from Walter Reed Military Hospital drive by. It was full of recovering soldiers. We were solemnly reminded of the price that has been paid for the freedoms we enjoy and were so thankful for the sacrifice of those men and their families. They have acted on the same feelings of duty and patriotism I had and what do they get for it? I wanted to tell them all I appreciate what they've decided to do with their lives and help that positive message overpower the ridicule they so often face.

While we were still walking to the Metro a family walked up behind us. They were on vacation and all wore trash bags over their clothes to try and keep dry. Their heads were wet and the dad asked the mom if she was doing alright. She said, "I am walking in the rain, on the 4th of July, with my family, in the Nation's Capitol. It doesn't get any better than this." As if that wasn't enough, her little boy then added, "Patriotism swells in the heart of the American Bear." I think he means a Bear rank in the Boy Scouts. There was almost a moment of silence as we were all touched by this innocent little comment. It was so sweet.

When we got home we turned on PBS and watched the fireworks all over again! We said, "Oh, remember that one? That one was great." I felt a little bit crazy doing that, but it was fun. Then Charlie Rose came on interviewing David McCullough. He was so interesting to listen to. I found it so refreshing to listen to a wholesome, intelligent, interesting man on my TV for a change. Josh and I both got the learning bug and pulled out some history books to answer questions the interview brought up. I'm heading to the library this week to get McCullough's book on John and Abigail Adams' letters. Evidentially Tom Hanks is involved in making it into a movie. Then we got online to find out why they always play the 1812 Overture on July 4th. It turns out it has nothing to do with the War of 1812, but it was very interesting to learn that Tchaikovsky wrote it to signify the Russian army's defeat of Napoleon's invasion. It starts out with themes from the French national anthem and finishes off with the old Russian national anthem - the Russian melody takes over the French melody and pushes it out, just like the army had done.

Well, since our camera is broken there are no pictures. But, the people we watched the fireworks with said they'd send us some, so if they do I'll post them later.

It was such an uplifting weekend. Saturday and Sunday were fun as well with a family jog along the C&O Canal by the Potomac, a visit from Cuz Emily and the Scharman gang, a bbq with the Lowe's, and friends over for dessert last night. We continued the "learning bug" by reading some poetry and the Declaration of Independence last night before we went to bed. I don't think we've ever done that before.